About Stephanie Pappas

Sacred Sex & Relationship Coach
Queen of Putting Pleasure First

How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Sex & Relationship Coach?

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to increase pleasure and intimacy in their love lives. That defining moment in my life happened in 2015.

I was in a sexless marriage and I didn’t know what my desires were let alone how to communicate them..

At the time I was trying to decide to either get the spark back into my relationship or get a divorce..

I was struggling with the fear of judgement from other people if I got divorced. I was struggling with the fear of the unknown. I felt stuck..

And I was getting more and more paralyzed in indecision..

The final straw was when I finally read a book that had been sitting on my shelf for a couple of years called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts by Regena Thomashauer. One of the chapters is called Monogamy: Time for a new model? I came to a question – Do you think it would be fun to be totally monogamous? – Immediately I felt a pit in my stomach, my heart sank and I said a resounding NO.

Then I read a lot of other options that I had never considered – Do you think it would be fun to be partially monogamous and have a few fun flings? Do you think it would be fun to have a series of passionate affairs over a lifetime? Would you like a man to support you? Would you like to support a man? How about several lovers at a time? Whoa these are options? Like, we’re allowed to create our own relationships according to our own terms? MIND BLOWN.

Then the bottom fell out from under me when I finally decided to move into my own apartment and my visa to live in the UK got denied. I was living in London at the time and had to transfer from a spousal visa to my own visa and that did not end up working out.

I had been living in London for 2 years, my whole life was there, and I was planning to continue living it. Now on top of the separation from my husband I was going to have to move cities as well.

As you can imagine, I was in bad shape and desperate, but I wasn’t ready to give up on my dream of figuring out who I was, what I desired in relationship, and being in a relationship that fulfilled me..

Then I discovered my mentor, Jaiya when I saw her speaking about the Erotic Blueprints at a Mama Gena’s class I was taking in NYC..

At that point, everything changed!

I finally figured out how to:

· Fulfill, heal and expand my sexuality. Which meant I couldn’t settle for anything less than a partner who knew their desires and could meet me in an ever expanding relationship. I wasn’t ready to give up on my dream of growing in a juicy relationship of exploration with a partner.

· Somatically feel my emotions unlocking the key to sexual health and vitality and ORGASMS WITH A PARTNER!

· Heal unconscious beliefs to find my pleasure and my confidence.

Because I discovered the Erotic Blueprints at that Mama Gena class I was taking in NYC., I was able to:

· Find my truth that I desired to create my own open relationship paradigm.

· Learn my sex language and how I liked to receive pleasure and then be able to communicate that to my partner

· Find the most honest, open, expansive, sexual, juicy relationship of my dreams.

Now I’m living in my dream. I was not willing to give up on figuring out who I was, what I desired in relationship, and being in a relationship that fulfilled me. Now I never have to worry about being in a sexless marriage. The truth is, I craved connection but I didn’t know how to even ask for what I desired. I had no voice.

Learning my sex language and healing my blocks that I was holding onto has given me a voice, has made sex so pleasurable, has increased my orgasms, and made my current relationship filled with extreme depth and expansiveness.

And that’s why I’m so passionate to share with you “My Sex and Relationship coaching program: 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life” so you can experience who you truly are, discover your true desires for YOUR relationship, and be in one that fulfills you too!

I cleaned up my past and started teaching couples and singles how they can do the same: I watched their love lives improve too! I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other couples and singles connect more in the bedroom increasing their pleasure and overall satisfaction in their relationship.

Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I lived my dream of spreading sex positivity and concsious relating; and I have created 90 Days To a High Vibe Love Life™, a series of 8 sessions to discover your and your partner’s Erotic Blueprint™, learn how to nourish yourself and your partner with pleasure, how to communicate in their sex language, how to heal your erotic shadows, how to expand into other Erotic Blueprints™ and make a plan to create your dream love life.

Every couple or single looking for more intimate connection needs to apply to find your Erotic Blueprint™ Type to create deeper sexual intimacy.

Who are your clients?

I adore my clients, and I work with people who can’t wait to go deeper in their sex life. I work with people just like you who

  • Might be afraid to get vulnerable and really ask for what they desire in the bedroom
  • Whose sex life is good, but there is still something blocking them from fully speaking their truth
  • Feel like their life looks picture perfect on the outside, but inside they are craving more.
  • Might be going through a dry spell.
  • Crave adventure, desire, connection.
  • Might be getting consumed with thoughts of if they should stay in this relationship or leave.
  • Feel stuck.
  • Envy their friends with more excitement in their sex lives.

What makes you different from other Sex & Relationship Coaches?

Although we will explore infusing more passion into your love life and other “sex & relationship coach-y” things, you have me as an Erotic Blueprint™ expert and consultant. I work on the ways that you and your partner are wired to receive pleasure and how to communicate those desires. What that means to you is that you get a sacred sex witch who is an authentic coach. I’m also very non-judgmental, and you’ll always get an accepting and honest response from me.

I’m concerned with how to get your sex life improved with more intimate connection, better communication, more orgasms, and all around receiving in the exact type of way that you desire to receive (and learning the way your partner desires to receive as well). You may not always like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what blocks are getting in the of your sex life and how to heal them on the deepest level FAST so you can start getting the passionate sex life you desire (and I throw in a healthy dose of play and inspiration, which always helps!).

What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?

The 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life workshops, products and programs were created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about getting vulnerable, healing, being comfortable in their own skin and sexuality, overcoming shame, discovering their desires, and communicating them – it means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “Why can’t I communicate to my partner what I desire?” They were created for you to put systems in place within 90 Days, which will eventually lead you to a juicier sex life filled with adventure, exploration, and pleasure.

Being someone who was afraid to be vulnerable myself, I’m known to work best with other people who are struggling with speaking their truth in their relationship, people who are committed to their success no matter what who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to increase intimacy in their sex life. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to get a more passionate love life. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: A fulfilling sex life where all your desires are seen, honored, and fulfilled.

For what type of clients are your programs NOT going to work?

Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.) The 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life programs are NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away. It’s been my experience that people in financial crisis do not trust the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they spend so much time worrying about where they are going to get next month’s rent check or mortgage payment.) If you fall within this category, it’s absolutely OK. We’ve all been in times of financial crisis at one point or another. Do yourself (3) favors:

  1. Get some money coming in with a full-time or part-time job at the very least, and then call me. This will take the edge off and provide a little more peace of mind. Mostly, it will de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life assignments and the BIG picture.
  2. Sign up for the free Erotic Blueprint™ Mini Course.  The free information will get you started towards your goals until you’re ready to work with me one-on-one.
  3. Make a point to read my newsletter with weekly tips. The tips are sent over weekly and will give you LOTS to think about.

Doing these three things will really help you get primed for our work. When you’re ready, call me and we’ll get you started. (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) Other types of personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the whiner or the chronic skeptic, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the program. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?

What exactly is 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life system and what does it include?

90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life begins with understanding your inner desires, where your blocks really come from, how to heal, and creating powerful communication techniques that get you results – as well as the outer pieces to expand and get more adventure in your love life. Here’s what the System gets you to do:

  1. Set goals and take a deeper look at some of the things holding you back so that we can transform them. What do you actually desire? What fears are blocking you from those desires?  We’re going to find out!
  2. Map out your Erotic Blueprint™ including the Blueprint Type, Sexual Stage, and Obstacles to Sexual Health and Vitality. You will receive an entire map of your erotic life including: what your potential is in receiving ultimate pleasure, what shadows are currently blocking you from that potential, and what other factors could be affecting the juicy, intimate life you desire.
  3. Becoming Embodied. If you’re in your head you’re dead.  Lose your mind to fully experience intimacy.
  4. Nourishing with pleasure. Feel deeply seen, honored, and nourished in the exact most pleasurable way that you desire. 
  5. Conscious Communication. Feel empowered to speak your truth.  Embody masculine and feminine polarity to get playful and super communicative in your love life.
  6. Healing Erotic Blocks. We will get to the gnarly root of what is causing these blocks in yourself. Transform, upgrade, and heal your shadow, so that you can experience the super powers of your eroticism.
  7. Expand Your Pleasure Zone.  Play in and appreciate other Erotic Blueprint™ archetypes.
  8. Creating your High Vibe Love Life. Where to go from here to continuously create that High Vibe Love Life of your dreams!

Are You Ready To Start?

Does this really work?

Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and discovering all there is to know about your desires. Once you know this it’s all about getting vulnerable and being able to explore in a non-judgemental way. It’s all pleasure research and there are no wrong answers. What I really do is help you learn the tools so that you can get vulnerable without fear of being rejected or shut down. (See Testimonials)

What results can I expect?

You can expect to:

  • Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments
  • Let go and release trauma in the body
  • Feel empowered to speak your truth and get vulnerable
  • Creating new standards for yourself and your relationship
  • Learn how to nourish and honor yourself and your partner
  • Learn to put pleasure first
  • Get super creative and adventurous in your sex life
  • Vibrate as a loving being, and become truly authentic in what you desire and how you give
  • Develop more compassion for yourself and others
  • Communicate in ways that your lover is receptive to
  • Create and honor your boundaries
  • Find your passion
  • Practice empathy and self responsibility
  • Create DEEP intimacy and meaning in your sex life
  • Deeply heal erotic blocks or shadows
  • Open your heart and expand into your TRUE being
  • Stay accountable to your goals and achieve them
  • Receive specific tools and practices to improve your sex life
  • Implement practices to continually have fun and explore more

Can I contact some of your former clients to see what it’s like to work with you?

Yes, I encourage you to! Please go to the Client Testimonials page and read all of them. See which ones you feel drawn to, either because the person has gotten the results you want to get too, or perhaps because that person is in a similar situation. Then feel free to email or call them and ask what they got from working with me and my programs.

How quickly can I expect results?

That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and communicate their desires vulnerably in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how many blocks you’re holding onto, what sort of obstacles to sexual health and vitality you are facing, and what healing work needs to happen.

How can I guarantee myself that I will get more connection and passion, in record time?

Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life have successfully gotten so comfortable in their own skin and what they desire, in much less time than they would have on their own AND have been able to get vulnerable, speak their truth, express themselves, and get more pleasurable intimate connection.

Stephanie Pappas, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?

Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your relationship goals… The best way to work with me is in my 90 Days To A High Vibe Love Life program. Book your free consultation here!

OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I contact you?

Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at stephanie@coachingbystephanie.com, I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!

Stephanie Pappas

Queen of Putting Pleasure First

Getting the High Vibe Love Life You Desire Starts With You

Explore your desire, put your pleasure first, live your truth. I’ll help you get there.


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